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I Was Told to Leap…

So there I am… standing at the place of decision, fear, and ambiguity.  On this side is certainty, comfort and familiarity.  Sound familiar?

In 2012, I kept getting this message…

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I finally chose to listen, and I was scared.

The decision I was faced with was leaving a company I was employed at for 11 years to pursue my own business, be my own boss, and fulfill my own dreams.

I walked to the edge, looked out in the fog and didn’t see the net.  I pulled back, hesitant and wanted to just go back to what I knew.  I had to push myself.  In order to hold myself accountable to my goal I started telling people I was leaving.  On the outside I declared it with such certainty, on the inside I was filled with such doubt.

I still wasn’t fully ready for the decision I was making but knew it was time.  For about 6 weeks I had trouble breathing, convinced it was from a cold I just couldn’t kick I headed to the doctor.  After a regimen of medicine and no results, I was clear it was my anxiety about this HUGE life decision .

On November 30th 2012, I walked to the edge, took a deep breath, and leapt!   For several months my monkey mind reeked havoc on my decision.  Convinced at times that the net wasn’t there, I wanted to pack it all in and go back to being someone’s employee, but I pushed through.

I just hit a huge milestone in my goals and dreams.  After 8 months of leaving my job I have TRIPLED my weekly income.  To give you a perspective, it took me 11 years, and I didn’t even double my income being an employee.

I share this personal story with you because my goal is helping people fulfill on their dreams.  I look forward to helping you pursue what is important to you!

Give us a call 954-401-9011 or drop us an email Katie@familyandcouplescounseling.com  to start the process… don’t wait 11 years when it can take 8 months.

by Katie Lemieux

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A Therapist’s Favorite Question…

So what is a therapist’s favorite question?

One of my favorite questions is, “what do you mean by that?” It doesn’t go over so fabulously in relationships. After I ask that question the response I usually receive is “don’t therapize me”. In fact, “what do you mean by that?” is an important and valuable question in communication!  It allows the speaker to clearly respond to what he/she means rather than an interpretation of the listener.

I think this picture depicts EXACTLY that question. I mean what EXACTLY does “Do Not Disturb Rocks” mean?  One can deduce many meanings from this sign, such as:

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  1. Perhaps the rocks are sleeping?
  2. Perhaps they are special rocks that should not be touched.
  3. Perhaps if you disturb them, they might bite…
  4. Perhaps if they are moved a giant hole will emerge and swallow you whole.

Good communication requires many things.  Most often people think that communication is in the speaking; it is even more important in the listening of others.  Have you ever really listened to someone?  What I mean by that is, have you turned off the ever running commentary in your head while someone is speaking, long enough to hear precisely what they are saying?  We often listen through filters of our own experience, what we deem is right and wrong, judgments, perceptions, etc.  Most of the time we aren’t listening at all.  We are thinking about what we are going to respond back with.  Here in lies the problem in communication.

What would it be like for your spouse, girlfriend/boyfriend, partner, friend… to have your full attention with no pre-conceived notions about what he/she is saying?  Nice, right!

Well if you are curious how Lemieux Solutions Unlimited, LLC can help you turn down the commentary in your head long enough to have a different conversation with the person in front of you, CONTACT US to see how we can help! In the meantime, using “what do you mean by that,” is really helpful!

By Katie Lemieux