With Memorial Day approaching this month, a favorite quote of mine comes from F. Scott Fitzgerald. He said, “For what it’s worth… it’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. [sic] I hope you live a life you’re proud of, and if you’re not, I hope you have the courage to start over again.”
When I coach other entrepreneurs who are opening up a business one of the very first conversations we have is…
What’s your “why”?
The coaching process begins with a pretty big question: “Why?” No, it isn’t to make money or because I thought I should. It is way bigger than that.
- Why did you even get up in the morning?
- Why did you become an entrepreneur?
- Why do you want to offer your services to others?
- Why will it matter?
- Why should anyone care?
How will the world change and be a better place because of your work? What is the legacy you want to leave behind after you’re gone? What is your 100 year goal? Pretty heavy stuff, right?
Death is uncomfortable…
It’s hard to believe how many days are dedicated to it: El Dia De Los Muertos in Mexico, Good Friday in Christianity, Memorial Day, even Halloween in the United States are just a few of the many celebrations throughout the world which focus on the inevitable: death.
Death doesn’t always have to scare us though, sometimes death can be the motivation we need to succeed. What would you want people to say about you once you’re gone? Are you living that kind of life you want to? What are the changes you need to make now so that you’re living that life today? Are you doing the things you dreamed about doing or at least taking actions towards those goals?
When I was in the 8th grade I took course on Death and Dying. As part of the course we had to write our own eulogy. I have since did that exercise several times with the most recent being February 2017. Have you ever written your own eulogy? Interesting right? When I coach people in writing goals we always start with the end in mind and work our way backwards. If you decided to try this exercise and write your own eulogy starting with “the end” (depends on your beliefs) in mind how close or how far are you away from the person who is being eulogized? Puts stuff into perspective one way or the other doesn’t it?
Death as motivation…
I want to encourage you to use the idea of your own death as a motivating tool. Do the things which you are afraid of now; do the things that scare you because you think that business venture won’t work, or that you don’t have the money saved up for that trip around the world.
Make a plan and get going on it now, not tomorrow or “someday”. Live your life like the person whose eulogy you wrote. If that means traveling the world, be the best parent you can be, making more time for the truly important things or whatever your “it” is, like Nike says, “just do it.” We aren’t promised tomorrow and there is no better day than today to start living and being your best self.
Looking to motivate yourself more, resolve old issues in your personal life or relationship? Or maybe you’re finally stepping out of your 9 to 5 doldrum. If you’re looking for a guide to help you get started on your life’s next big adventure, I’m just a click away Katie@FamilyAndCouplesCounseling.com.